Are You A Size Queen?

Are you a size queen? Is size what you judge on?

In the gay community, size is everything. If you don’t fit the “right” size you don’t belong. Just read personal ads and you’ll see words like, “no fats”, HWP (height, weight proportionate), or “if your belly hangs over…”. And sometime you’ll even see “chubby chaser”. Unfortunately, discrimination against overweight men and women isn’t exclusive to the Gay community.

I have been an overweight man for most of my adult life. There were a few “skinny” years during the mid-eighties but they didn’t last long. I have been ignored at parties. I have been ridiculed. All because of my size.

During the past year, I have been on my own weight loss journey. I have met some great people of size through message boards, social networks and at my WW meetings. All of these friends have been an integral part of my weight loss success. We have given each other advice, a shoulder to lean on, and celebrated our successes together. We have seen our bodies change. Many of us have lost between 75 and 100 pounds. Some of us are becoming HWP. Will we become size queens?

I’m hoping that as our bodies become more attractive we will remember that our size did not tell our whole story. Perhaps we can lead by example and teach others that wonderful people don’t always wear a size 2.